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What Belongs on a Wedding Checklist?

Posted by Hope on August 16th, 2007

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This may sound crass but I really believe one of the first things that should be on a wedding checklist is: register! Yes of course all gifting should be spontaneous, at the will of the giver and so on. But guests really do like to plan ahead and set aside enough money to buy a nice and meaningful gift.

Also a bridal registry is essential to any couple who doesn’t a.) want two dozen toasters to return and b.)want two dozen juicers to return. The registry gives the engaged couple a chance to really think about the brass tacks of their future life together. They sit down together and think beyond parties and travels together and ask what do they need to keep house.

Although it may sound pessimistic, a lot of couples simply get too stressed out over wedding plans and elope. If the first thing on the wedding checklist is to register then any tactful well meaning friends can simply buy a gift from the bridal registry and send it to the couple when things calm down. A wedding gift is still in good taste for an eloped couple even though soliciting them with wedding invitations is not. An announcement after the fact is used to spread the word about this change in plans.

Once a couple has registered any casual acquaintance or distant relative who isn’t likely to attend the wedding can simply inquire where the couple is registered. Then sending a gift and a card is a relatively minor gesture but a thoughtful one. Truly the bridal registry is the most thoughtful thing that a couple can do for their friends, family and co-workers. After the wants, needs and various patterns are all picked out then the couple can just go about the rest of the items on their wedding checklist. If they receive the gifts they want then fine, if they don’t then that’s fine too. The wedding won’t be affected any further by this matter.

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Are Wedding Planning And Wedding Planners The Same Thing?

Posted by Hope on August 15th, 2007

Wedding planning is not the same as hiring a wedding planner although both are probably really necessary! Wedding planning should probably be a lengthy process that starts long before a professional wedding planner is hired.

A first step for anyone and for a great many different objectives is to indulge in a mad brain storming session. This can include anyone who is likely to be closely involved in the big day. Simply jot down every concern or idea that anyone may have about the wedding. You may have always dreamed of a beach wedding. Your future spouse has always wanted to hire U2 to play at the reception. Your parents may have basic concerns about an ethnic or religious ceremony.

When you take a look at the notes you might also realize that big name acts are out of budget but you know a priest who likes beach weddings. A further look at the budget makes a cruise lines’ beach wedding unaffordable but your grandfather offers to let you use his beach house and get married on the beach. A perfect budget balance occurs when your cousin’s garage band offers their services for free and they specialize in U2’s music.

After a basic wedding planning is complete it’s time to start researching. Unless this is at least the second wedding that you’ve planned in this decade, a trip to a good library, bookstore or both are
in order. Some of the things to consider are the great new wedding ideas in Martha Steward’s Living as well as Bride magazines. But don’t stop there.

Wedding etiquette is still a fundamental aspect of this sometimes very expensive and formal occasion. Try finding a copy of Emily Posts’ Wedding Etiquette or a similar book on the same subject. A fortune of hurt feelings can be avoided by knowing the traditions and expectations of friends and family.

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